Gear up, Take Charge!

In today’s world, we all strive for things that are elementary and basic in nature. We struggle for peace and happiness. We lack empathy and sympathy for others. Finding pleasure in doing small things is tough for us. We lack concentration and focus. All in all, in spite of belonging to the most technologically advanced era, we are internally indeed the most unpleasant and disturbed group of humans on this earth which is mostly because of our inability to be our best “selves” throughout the day from the moment we wake up.
Let us look at the most basic ways in which we can stop living life stressfully and can take over every single day as conscious, happy living beings

Breathe it in and out, consciously.
Or in other words, “Meditate”. Meditation does not mean dedicating an hour every morning, although nothing could benefit you more. It simply aims at improving the way you think, take decisions and act according to your consciousness. This could be done for half an hour or ten minutes. The importance lies in the way you implement it irrespective of the amount of time you dedicate. While mediating, your mind is sure to diverge into millions of thoughts. Do not try to stop that because that would be useless. Instead try to focus on any single positive aspect of your life which gives you happiness and makes you calm. Slowly all others thoughts would vanish and as a result you will be able to concentrate better throughout the day. Be lively through every breath you take in and leave out.

Sleep better if not more.
Your eight hours of sleep is perhaps the most important element that keeps you going good every single day. Without it, life would become hard and you would become miserable. In today fast paced world, getting eight hours of sleep might seem like a challenge at times but that number when deceases below 6 does start creating problems. Moreover, if those hours are filled with horrific and unrealistic dreams, you surely need to calm down and let your subconscious mind work less for a few hours at least. For the time being you sleep, your body is at complete rest and that is what prepares you for a better day at work or school or your respective places of interest. Without that, nothing will fall into place.

Sweat it out
Exercise for at least thirty minutes a day in order to get that sweat out of your body. It also helps decrease your cortisol level which is the primary stress hormone and helps in increase of testosterone. (Check out how exercising effects the release of other hormones in the body :- https://www.acefitness.org/blog/5593/8-hormones-involved-in-exercise ) Exercising helps to keep you fit and hence also prepares you for the day-long challenges you are to face. It not only works your body but you also challenge your mind to a great extent when you do so. Keep workout out dedicatedly and trust me, you won’t be able to stay a single day without going through the routine after a few months.

Healthy in-takes matter
When it comes to in-take of food for your body, always aim for healthy stuff. But the same thing applies for your mind. Your eyes are the window to your mind and whatever things you feed it, the same would be the impact. Hence always keep those in-takes healthy both for your body and mind in order to keep yourself in good health and to keep your mind strong, sharp and focused. Have faith, keep looking up to the successful ones, and keep motivating yourself towards your goals. Remember to not focus much on the unhealthy matters because too much of negativity leads to nothing in reality. Keep a balance between being an optimist and a realist.

Forget yourself
Sometimes, the best thing to do it to let go off all your stress and focus on the bigger picture. It is necessary at times to stop looking at the mirror that only reflects your image and instead to look out and provide support to the millions of people who are in need of help. You belong to this world, to the society and as a human being there is no bigger responsibility other than helping out your fellow beings. Hence, take a pause, let go off yourself, and dig deep into the service of the ones in utter need of humanity. Only then can you become yourself and can truly be termed as a ‘human being’.

I am sure we all are quite aware of the aforementioned points and maybe many of us do indeed live life with these incorporations significantly. But for the ones who don’t, try not to develop them as a habit, but to create a lifestyle with these basic and elementary doings for your betterment. Try to be your best self’ and try to keep living every day of your life peacefully and happily.

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Stop being “Good”. Start being “Unstoppable”!

In life, everyone strives to achieve greatness. Everyone aims to be successful and in their own ways they keep on struggling for fulfillment of their desires and aims. There is no one step process that guarantees success. Neither is there any single mantra to achieve greatness. So how do the greats ultimately make it to the top? How did for instance Cristiano Ronaldo or Lionel Messi manage to breakthrough almost all records made in the history of football (soccer)? How did the Stanford goers Larry Page and Sergey Brin manage to create absolute history by finding the ultimate search engine for the world? The answer is simple. Whatever they did, they did it with such passion, dedication and hard-work which led them to become nothing short of ‘”unstoppable”. As Tim Grover, author of “Relentless” and founder of “Attack Athletics”, the agency that trained sports icons like Dwayne Wade and Michael Jordan says, “The drive to close the gap between near-perfect and perfect is the difference between great and unstoppable”, let us look at some necessary steps to take in order to become unstoppable in whatever we do in life.

Focus
Have your mind free from deviations and distractions when doing anything and I mean anything with a capital A! Every small thing you do in life contributes to ultimate success and if you put focus upon every single detail behind those tasks, nothing can stop you from becoming unstoppable. Sometimes it may take time to develop inevitable levels of focus and once you are able to reach that level with patience and perseverance, you are in for an absolute ride of fun, joy and magnificence!

Dedication
Have you ever wondered why your favorite team losing a match is many a times more of an issue of concern than your declining grades? (And the opposite for your parents) This is simply because you are dedicated with all your heart towards that club or team you support although in reality you are not affected practically in any ways. “Be dedicated” is perhaps the two words you have heard a million times in your life and in-fact by being dedicated truly and wholeheartedly, you surpass that line between someone who is ordinary and someone who is unstoppable.

Hard-Work
“Work your butt off!”, as asserted by the seven times Mr. Olympia, Arnold Schwarzenegger is a fact which you need to incorporate in life to be achieve greatness and make a name for yourself in the world. Nothing can replace hard-work. Shortcuts only lead to short term and impermanent success but if you do your job without leaving no stones unturned, you my friend are sure to reach the top!

Organization
We often are faced with challenges and difficult situations in life and some of the most common ones? Not finding your car keys when you have a meeting to attend to in 20 minutes or Not having a pen in your pocket when you desperately need to note down an important detail or Not having enough charge on your portable devices in order to get access to certain content instantly. All these issues may sound simple but indeed are what cause turnarounds in the lives of certain people. So, my simple two-word advice to you all? “Be organized”. Start with proper arrangement of stuff on your study table and develop this into a habit so that from the next time you need to wear your silver watch that you kept secondary to the golden one that suddenly stopped working, you can find it hassle-free. This would also in turn build your confidence and later in life, this habit is what will set you apart from others still trying to figure out life.

Will-power
The one and only thing that keeps people going during times of utter distress is one’s power of will. This applies for all fields and range of work and is an absolute necessity to reach great heights of success in life. Once you are on the field and are totally into the work you do, failures are bound to hit you as you keep on taking risks with various experiments and new ideas but if that stops you from going further, that’s the end. You are done and dusted and life seems to be curse. So, keep your head-strong and never let anything or anyone stop you from becoming the person you want to be.

As we heard Will saying in The Pursuit of Happiness, “You got a dream, you gotta protect it” and “Walk the walk and go forward all the time”, you have to be nothing less of a predator on the hunt. The qualities listed above will certainly help you becoming that and you are guaranteed to become what I call as the defining characteristic behind every icon to have lived in this planet and that is “UNSTOPPABLE“!

Take Responsibility!

“Life is not the way you act but the way you respond to the various happenings”, I’m sure everyone of us is aware of this saying. But it is indeed both that counts. First of all, we all need to identify our “locus of control” and set it straight. Life does not happen according to the wishes of others but is determined by what “we” do ourselves. You wake up right when the alarm clock rings, then it is you who is acting. You keep snoozing the alarm clock which results in getting late for the following activities, then also it is you who is acting. So the best possible way to end stalling our tasks and blaming others is to take complete responsibility of our actions.  This indeed is one of the keys to happiness and I can ensure you a prosperous and content life if you really do so.

The Locus of Control can be defined as a position or place within our brain which determines whether the outcomes of our actions are internally motivated or externally. The brain is a complex organ, right? Well what if I say we make it complicated? If you constantly keep throwing negative and complex ideologies to it then eventually something will stick! That is exactly the case for most of us. Right from the moment we are born, the society plays a huge role in our development upto a certain point. But when time comes to take control of our lives, we either act courageously or end up being cowards who blindly keep on following the norms of the society in the fear of getting rejected. We fake our emotions, we try to build false images and do tasks that make us sad just because of the want of being recognized by others.  We program our minds to think negatively and end up being pessimists. This is when we start blaming the complex nature of the brain and commences the act of blaming others for what and who we end up being at that present moment.  And to make it worse, we continue doing this for the rest of our lives. We stop taking responsibility for the happenings and react to the events that occur with anger, frustration and disgust. We develop a sense of hate against other beings and end up living a monotonous and dreadful life with all our dreams and aspirations left unfulfilled. But hey, it’s never late to start believing in yourself and to take responsibility. It’s a fact that positivity comes with taking positive actions and not by just thinking optimistically. So, in order to take control of your life, just take control and act!

From the day you start taking responsibility for your actions, I promise that will be the day from when you will start living your life. It will be tough but will be the truth. It will be hard but will bring out the real you. It will be challenging but will always take you through.

The beginning is always the hardest and is same for this case. Here are a few things each of you can start following right from this moment to break away from the shackles of blaming others and to take control of life :-

  1. Know yourself completely: – Your likes, dislikes, hobbies, fantasies, dreams, values and motivations.
  2. Believe in yourself: – Without trusting yourself, you can never start acting responsibly in terms of the actions you do. And as I always say, have faith not hope, because hope is a beggar whereas faith is credible and trustworthy to the fullest.
  3. Respect yourself: – To start taking responsibility of your actions, you need to start respecting the person you are.
  4. Accept yourself: – When we start growing up, we eventually start spending much of our time in front of the mirror. It is necessary to maintain good heath but to start changing the way we appear for others to notice is completely unacceptable. We must accept yourselves the way we are as no one is perfect and perfection is vague.
  5. Have patience: – Patience is inevitable for any kind of success and the same applies to this case. You have to be patient and keep working on yourself in order to become the person you want to by taking responsibility of your actions.
  6. Evaluate yourself: – Everyday, spend at least 15 minutes of time with yourself. There must be no other distractions during that time period and utilize that time to reflect upon your thoughts and values and the motive behind our taking responsibility for our actions.
  7. Keep yourself motivated:- Out of 100%, only 1% is motivation while the rest is perseverance, hard-work and dedication. But at times that 1% really matters. So take some time off and engage in reading about and listening to the ones who have truly experience d the hardships of life and have overcome them.

That being said, let’s start motivating ourselves right from this moment and let’s become responsible for what we do and how we respond to the situations in life. And I promise you, the outcomes that will follow will be positive, joyous and ecstatic!

Cheers! 🙂

To Expect or Not To?

‘Expectations’. A word we all are familiar with. A word some of us consider as a boon while some cannot withstand its mere existence. In today’s world, we are often told not to expect things and to just move on ‘with the flow’. We are often asked to keep believing and trusting ourselves, leaving the rest upon fate to carry on. Is that how we should live our lives? Is that how we should achieve our dreams and aspirations? Is that the only way out to seek true success?

As I have always been mentioning, ‘Life’ does not decide our outcomes. It only provides us with situations and challenges, often created by us. Often these challenges are hard. Often these situations are difficult. And how can one succeed without having any expectation? Our expectations are what keep us going, when a heavy bag filled with destress and tension hangs from shoulder and rests upon our back. Expectations are what keeps up the optimism alive within us. How does one move forth towards a goal, when he/she in realty has no expectations at all? There is indeed no guarantee that a person would achieve happiness if nothing is expected by him. Why not then, expect something? Why not then, expect small things as we keep building the blocks that would lead to the ultimate achievement? The joy of glory would multiply to a thousand times when we are successful in fulfilling our expectations. The magnitude of the expectation could range, irrespective of which, the contents would always be great on fulfilment of the expectation.

A question that might be raised now, is, what if the expectations are not met by us? In the first place, the things we expect must be in relative to reality. If still, the issue of not fulfilling the expectation persists, then there is, a fault from your side. The recognition and understanding of this fault would help a person to develop his/her strengths and to overcome his weaknesses. On the other side, when a person does achieve glory without any expectation, how can the true potential of the respective person be determined by him/her? While three may lie a mere sense of agony in not being able to fulfil an expectation, there also lies the scope for betterment and achievement of glory in bigger terms than before. Whatever may happen, the spirit must not die from within. Failing to meet an expectation must be countered with lessons learnt, out of that failure.

All throughout, there is only one kind of expectation that I have been taking about, which is the expectation one has from himself/herself. That, indeed must be the only kind of expectation that rests within oneself. Expecting from others and trying to meet the expectation of others are not the things we need to be concerned about. If there is a goal and a will to achieve that goal, then having an expectation to achieve that very goal or dream, is what would indeed help in ensuring success!

Cheers!

 

There are times, when everything around us seems to be blooming with joy and every single moment seems to be a happy one. Everything then seems simple, easy and fun. We feel like boasting about our abilities in dealing with life, and somewhere deep within we desire for the circumstances to remain the same for ever. The strength and confidence among us remains at the peak and it feels like pessimism is long gone for a holiday, somewhere far away. But, there are questions to be asked. There are analysations to be made. There are answers to be provided. All regarding a single issue: – Do the ‘happy times’ really define your character? The close ended answer to this particular question would always be ‘no’. But for an open-ended answer, we would need to shift our focus to the following paragraph and cling on till the very end.

First of all, what does the term ‘strength of a character’ refer to? Why is one’s character so important and in what way can it be developed? Let me begin by saying that our talent can take us to many places. A person who is good at hacking, can either be a professional and illegal hacker or can work for the betterment of the society by not hacking personal stuff of people illegally and instead helping the government to get hold of the criminals and fraudsters. The factor that differentiates the final call or action to be taken? Yes, ‘character’ it is. A strong character is equally necessary along with talent in order to lead a successful and wise, ethical life. Without a proper character, people would only drown into darkness instead of living a prosperous life with their heads high.

Now, how can one really develop a strong and sensible character? One can, if he/she just decides to do so. One can, if the there is a strong desire to do so. One can, if one is self-disciplined and truly thrives for glory and success. There is no mantra for its development nor there is any shortcut. All that is there is the will to do so. But still, for the one’s hungry for any kind of tip, I would say, first of all develop a personality that stands for itself and can never be doubted against. Then take that achievement to the next level, and start making gains in terms of development of a great and strong character.

Let’s say, you are able to develop that desired character and you are being able to take care of things on your own way, confidently. But how would it add to the betterment of your journey in life? How would it create an impact that would reflect its true significance in life?. How would it prove to be beneficial for you? Well, in many ways, I would say.

First of all, you would never lead towards the distractions deposited upon your life. You would be clearly able to differentiate between the wrong and correct things in life. Making hard choices would seem to be easy. And most importantly, the level of self-respect you would gather would be infinite and unimaginable.

So, is it worth having a strong character in life? Is it worth spending time towards its development? Does becoming successful have any relation with how we achieve things in life? If the answer to this questions do not occur to you at an instant, then you are in utmost need of looking after yourself. And If the answer does occur to you instantly, then keep up the good work of thriving towards days filled with glory, fame and respect!

And now, finally coming back to the point from where I started, I would like to end this piece of writing with a famous quotation that says, “A True Test Of Character Isn’t How You Are On Your Best Days But How You Act On Your Worst Days”. (The reason why I mentioned about ‘clinging on till the very end’)

Hope this cleared all the doubts and answered all the questions you have been seeking throughout the writing, and I truly hope this does in a way, help in the betterment, and improvement in the way life is being led by each and every one of us.

Cheers! 🙂

‘Face Your Fears!’ – A Lesson Learnt.

 

Till today, I have always tried to act or pretend to be calm and composed. Till today, I have been believing in the whole ‘fake it till you make it’ concept. Till today, I have been cheating on my own feelings. And till today, all I have been doing is trying to create of persona of myself to others that in reality is everything but true. Now, why did it take so many years for me to really discover these points? Or to be real, why did it take such amount of time for me to actually portray my true feelings to the ones around me? The answer is a ‘self-created’ feeling that forms a big part in almost everyone’s life. And it is ‘fear’.

I have been mentioning the words ‘till today’ in the first few lines of my previous paragraph. And the reason behind it is also as simple as it sounds. It wasn’t until this very day that I have finally been able to realise or understand this issue related to me or my personality. And this realisation might have never come without ‘someone’s’ help or contribution. Ms. Damini Benny Basu is that person, who made me feel what fear is, and how we can really overcome it. And in the next paragraph, that will be the issue regarding which I will be writing about. Ms Benny, a big name in the Theatre industry, held a seminar in our college and the things I learnt in those few hours were truly inspiring and that is what motivated and pushed me to write this piece of blog.

As famously said by Jack Canfield and I quote, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear”. But does fear really need to exist within everybody? No. No one is born with the feeling of fear. It is something we develop ourselves and as was said by our Seminar’s Guest Speaker, Ms. Damini,  “it is something one creates as a form of a defence mechanism against any sort of act in order to avoid being portrayed as unaccepted”. I believe, fear is something we create ourselves, and it depends on us as to whether we destroy the feeling or keep on experiencing it needlessly. Now, sometimes we hear people say that fear is necessary. I would say, that is not correct, at least in my opinion. But I need to accept that most of us at some point in our lives do really experience fear, but as said earlier it depends only on us to abolish it or move on with the feeling on our shoulders.

So, now we know what fear is and all we can do to get rid of it or to never let it even develop within ourselves is by simply not bringing in the feeling at the first place. But the most important and effective way of dealing with fear would be by simply accepting it. Yes, trust me, there can be no other alternatives to dealing with our fears than letting it out. Nervousness, anxiousness, tension, all these things are felt by us whenever we are upto something new or even if we have been doing the things for a long period of time. It is the sudden rush of hormones in our body that excites us and in the meantime also creates a feeling within ourselves, which we call as ’fear’. So, why not simple accept and acknowledge the fact that we are indeed nervous? Why feel afraid in portraying what we really feel? If we could do something as simple as that to achieve better success in whatever we do, then why not follow that path?. Well, my friends, once again I would mention that this only depends on you. You need not have to worry about anyone around you. All you need to do is loosen up yourself or as our speaker kept on saying to us, “Let Loose!”.

I hope everyone would be able to relate to my perspective and everyone would certainly try out the aforementioned ways in trying to get rid of the feeling of fear. And as Ms.Benny Said and I quote once again, “Let Loose! and live life the way you want to!!” And remember all the steps are needed to be taken by us and there is no other way of letting go of our fears that facing them and letting them out.

 

Cheers! 🙂

‘MOVE ON!’

 

Everyone in their lives, are always going through a time-table of exams and tests as everyone needs to prove their worth in whatever they do. You love something, and the next day you start working hard on it. You try to achieve things. And while trying to reach the ultimate goal or desire, we need to climb through certain steps. Let’s take the example of a set of exams for for school or college student. Or a few projects lined up for a professional engineer to prove his worth. Or a few research developments for a scientist. I want you to consider any such example as you may have in your mind which includes a chunk of steps to climb, in order to attain a goal that one preserves for. Let’s say that the scientist fails to bring the required outcome of a certain experiment. Let’s say the engineer couldn’t design a project in a beautiful way. Let’s say that college student couldn’t give an exam with the greatest of competency. And in all the cases, there is still hope. There are still things to be worked after in order to achieve that goal. And that desire, that dream goal can still be achieved. All he needs to do is gain control over his mind and not keep thinking about that single exam, or that single unsuccessful experiment or that “not so appreciable’ project. Instead, why not look forward and work hard for the upcoming tasks. Why not ‘give it your all’ in them! Why waste time regretting about that single failed task that you really worked hard for. Well, it didn’t work out or it did work out but not as you wanted it and maybe you really faltered a lot. Maybe you ignored a few valuable things which were needed to look after. Maybe you took things a bit casually. Maybe you didn’t keep it simple and complicated things to the greatest extent. Well whatever the reason it is, get on with it, throw that thought out of your head into the dustbin and move forward and try to do the things which you do next in a way that would guarantee success. Now let me depict the basic idea I am trying to portray with a simple example.

 

Let’s say you are trying to climb up a ladder in order to reach some place that’s very high. Let’s assume you are on the 50th step of the ladder and you need to climb 50 more. And on stepping your foot on the 51st step, you slip because of a few drops of water that were spilled on the left of that very step of the ladder. So you were unconscious, unmindful, and maybe overconfident of your ability to climb the ladder and you went too fast without even looking at the next step. Or on the contrary let’s say you were damn scared and fear overpowered you in such an extent that you couldn’t even notice a few drops of water, spilled right in front of your eyes. Or maybe you felt that you wouldn’t slip because of your shoes that maybe, were specially designed to protect you from such unwanted consequences. But whatever the fact or logic may lie behind your ‘slipping’, the fact of the matter is you did! (Now, let’s proceed with our assumed Example)

So, you placed your feet on the water spilled on the ladder and you slipped. Both of your legs are hanging on the air but you are still holding onto the ladder with the help of your hands. And if you are able to exert enough push, you can easily place your feet firmly on the steps of ladder once again. But this time, you need to rectify the mistakes you made and not, for once again place your feet on that water particle(s). Otherwise you will fall, again. But instead if you lose all hope and are ‘scared to hell’ because of a simple slip of legs and are afraid of the fact that you may even die if you fall down , then you may keep on hanging like that for a while and ultimately fa(i)ll. You are then afraid of the fact that you would not be able to exert the push required to pull yourself back. You are worried, unconfident and broken. And you know how you could deal with these? Just believe. Yes, it’s as simple as it sounds. All you’ve gotta do is believe in yourself and not let a single negative thought let your mind affect your path towards success. And then if you just exert the right amount of push and with your confidence can overcome the fear within yourself, then you can easily start over from where you slipped. And this time, it’s going to be a lot more fun and the journey would be ‘one to remember’, as you did not give up and instead you decided to learn from your mistakes and took up the challenge for a second time. And no matter how many times you need to take the same challenge again, remember that there is no limit to doing a task in order to achieve success.

 

Now let’s equate this example with a few real-life/practical one’s stated earlier. Let’s say a scientist fails in a single experiment, but has nine more to prove. Then he can easily prove all of them right with the hard work, perseverance and confidence required. The same can be applied in that case of an engineer who fails a single project but has many others still to come. And also a student who is not able to score good marks in a single exam which might be in the middle of a long term of exams, can do well in the next ones and not do the same mistakes yet again by keeping in mind the littlest of things required to be perfect.

 

Hence, as you can see, nothing is impossible nor hard to achieve. It’s all about the mind-set of yours and once you believe in what you can do, you will be able to do it without a doubt. But what needs to be remembered here is that, whatever happens, it’s you who is responsible for it. Not ‘him’, not ‘her’ not ‘they’. It’s you, and only you!

 

So go on, stop regretting about things you could not complete as you have wanted to and instead take lessons from them and move forward with even greater confidence, competence and perseverance!

Cheers! 🙂