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‘Face Your Fears!’ – A Lesson Learnt.

 

Till today, I have always tried to act or pretend to be calm and composed. Till today, I have been believing in the whole ‘fake it till you make it’ concept. Till today, I have been cheating on my own feelings. And till today, all I have been doing is trying to create of persona of myself to others that in reality is everything but true. Now, why did it take so many years for me to really discover these points? Or to be real, why did it take such amount of time for me to actually portray my true feelings to the ones around me? The answer is a ‘self-created’ feeling that forms a big part in almost everyone’s life. And it is ‘fear’.

I have been mentioning the words ‘till today’ in the first few lines of my previous paragraph. And the reason behind it is also as simple as it sounds. It wasn’t until this very day that I have finally been able to realise or understand this issue related to me or my personality. And this realisation might have never come without ‘someone’s’ help or contribution. Ms. Damini Benny Basu is that person, who made me feel what fear is, and how we can really overcome it. And in the next paragraph, that will be the issue regarding which I will be writing about. Ms Benny, a big name in the Theatre industry, held a seminar in our college and the things I learnt in those few hours were truly inspiring and that is what motivated and pushed me to write this piece of blog.

As famously said by Jack Canfield and I quote, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear”. But does fear really need to exist within everybody? No. No one is born with the feeling of fear. It is something we develop ourselves and as was said by our Seminar’s Guest Speaker, Ms. Damini,  “it is something one creates as a form of a defence mechanism against any sort of act in order to avoid being portrayed as unaccepted”. I believe, fear is something we create ourselves, and it depends on us as to whether we destroy the feeling or keep on experiencing it needlessly. Now, sometimes we hear people say that fear is necessary. I would say, that is not correct, at least in my opinion. But I need to accept that most of us at some point in our lives do really experience fear, but as said earlier it depends only on us to abolish it or move on with the feeling on our shoulders.

So, now we know what fear is and all we can do to get rid of it or to never let it even develop within ourselves is by simply not bringing in the feeling at the first place. But the most important and effective way of dealing with fear would be by simply accepting it. Yes, trust me, there can be no other alternatives to dealing with our fears than letting it out. Nervousness, anxiousness, tension, all these things are felt by us whenever we are upto something new or even if we have been doing the things for a long period of time. It is the sudden rush of hormones in our body that excites us and in the meantime also creates a feeling within ourselves, which we call as ’fear’. So, why not simple accept and acknowledge the fact that we are indeed nervous? Why feel afraid in portraying what we really feel? If we could do something as simple as that to achieve better success in whatever we do, then why not follow that path?. Well, my friends, once again I would mention that this only depends on you. You need not have to worry about anyone around you. All you need to do is loosen up yourself or as our speaker kept on saying to us, “Let Loose!”.

I hope everyone would be able to relate to my perspective and everyone would certainly try out the aforementioned ways in trying to get rid of the feeling of fear. And as Ms.Benny Said and I quote once again, “Let Loose! and live life the way you want to!!” And remember all the steps are needed to be taken by us and there is no other way of letting go of our fears that facing them and letting them out.

 

Cheers!🙂

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‘MOVE ON!’

 

Everyone in their lives, are always going through a time-table of exams and tests as everyone needs to prove their worth in whatever they do. You love something, and the next day you start working hard on it. You try to achieve things. And while trying to reach the ultimate goal or desire, we need to climb through certain steps. Let’s take the example of a set of exams for for school or college student. Or a few projects lined up for a professional engineer to prove his worth. Or a few research developments for a scientist. I want you to consider any such example as you may have in your mind which includes a chunk of steps to climb, in order to attain a goal that one preserves for. Let’s say that the scientist fails to bring the required outcome of a certain experiment. Let’s say the engineer couldn’t design a project in a beautiful way. Let’s say that college student couldn’t give an exam with the greatest of competency. And in all the cases, there is still hope. There are still things to be worked after in order to achieve that goal. And that desire, that dream goal can still be achieved. All he needs to do is gain control over his mind and not keep thinking about that single exam, or that single unsuccessful experiment or that “not so appreciable’ project. Instead, why not look forward and work hard for the upcoming tasks. Why not ‘give it your all’ in them! Why waste time regretting about that single failed task that you really worked hard for. Well, it didn’t work out or it did work out but not as you wanted it and maybe you really faltered a lot. Maybe you ignored a few valuable things which were needed to look after. Maybe you took things a bit casually. Maybe you didn’t keep it simple and complicated things to the greatest extent. Well whatever the reason it is, get on with it, throw that thought out of your head into the dustbin and move forward and try to do the things which you do next in a way that would guarantee success. Now let me depict the basic idea I am trying to portray with a simple example.

 

Let’s say you are trying to climb up a ladder in order to reach some place that’s very high. Let’s assume you are on the 50th step of the ladder and you need to climb 50 more. And on stepping your foot on the 51st step, you slip because of a few drops of water that were spilled on the left of that very step of the ladder. So you were unconscious, unmindful, and maybe overconfident of your ability to climb the ladder and you went too fast without even looking at the next step. Or on the contrary let’s say you were damn scared and fear overpowered you in such an extent that you couldn’t even notice a few drops of water, spilled right in front of your eyes. Or maybe you felt that you wouldn’t slip because of your shoes that maybe, were specially designed to protect you from such unwanted consequences. But whatever the fact or logic may lie behind your ‘slipping’, the fact of the matter is you did! (Now, let’s proceed with our assumed Example)

So, you placed your feet on the water spilled on the ladder and you slipped. Both of your legs are hanging on the air but you are still holding onto the ladder with the help of your hands. And if you are able to exert enough push, you can easily place your feet firmly on the steps of ladder once again. But this time, you need to rectify the mistakes you made and not, for once again place your feet on that water particle(s). Otherwise you will fall, again. But instead if you lose all hope and are ‘scared to hell’ because of a simple slip of legs and are afraid of the fact that you may even die if you fall down , then you may keep on hanging like that for a while and ultimately fa(i)ll. You are then afraid of the fact that you would not be able to exert the push required to pull yourself back. You are worried, unconfident and broken. And you know how you could deal with these? Just believe. Yes, it’s as simple as it sounds. All you’ve gotta do is believe in yourself and not let a single negative thought let your mind affect your path towards success. And then if you just exert the right amount of push and with your confidence can overcome the fear within yourself, then you can easily start over from where you slipped. And this time, it’s going to be a lot more fun and the journey would be ‘one to remember’, as you did not give up and instead you decided to learn from your mistakes and took up the challenge for a second time. And no matter how many times you need to take the same challenge again, remember that there is no limit to doing a task in order to achieve success.

 

Now let’s equate this example with a few real-life/practical one’s stated earlier. Let’s say a scientist fails in a single experiment, but has nine more to prove. Then he can easily prove all of them right with the hard work, perseverance and confidence required. The same can be applied in that case of an engineer who fails a single project but has many others still to come. And also a student who is not able to score good marks in a single exam which might be in the middle of a long term of exams, can do well in the next ones and not do the same mistakes yet again by keeping in mind the littlest of things required to be perfect.

 

Hence, as you can see, nothing is impossible nor hard to achieve. It’s all about the mind-set of yours and once you believe in what you can do, you will be able to do it without a doubt. But what needs to be remembered here is that, whatever happens, it’s you who is responsible for it. Not ‘him’, not ‘her’ not ‘they’. It’s you, and only you!

 

So go on, stop regretting about things you could not complete as you have wanted to and instead take lessons from them and move forward with even greater confidence, competence and perseverance!

Cheers!🙂

‘Deal’ with ‘Distracción’

Have you ever felt like everything around is simply messed up and all you achieve in no matter what is you do, is failure? Have you ever felt like not being able to breathe because of an unimaginable pile of stress hanging over your head? Have you ever felt confused and irritated to the greatest extent, because of the fact that you constantly keep complaining about the obstacles in your life? Well, I’m sure you have. I would like to share my thoughts on this context and would like to let you people know what according to me is the real reason behind such distress and sorrow. So keep reading and I hope by the completion of every single line, you will be realizing what your mistakes are and how you could improve.

First of all, as I have mentioned a numerous number of times in my previous writings, do what you would love to do, doing which you would feel free and happy rather than feeling stressed-out or depressed.  Now, there are some people out there, many to be precise, who actually take wrong choices even though they are given the freedom to do what they want. And what happens is that after a certain time span, they simply lose focus. Now, ‘focus’ is a must, if you wanna be at the top and if you wanna really achieve your goals. So, simply speaking, lock yourself up in a room, dig down deep within yourself, and decide upon that you really want in life. Secondly, make that aim your primary focus in life, which would be quite simple, if what you decide to do is really what your heart wants. Once all this is done, you are ready to roll, and give it all you can, every single second, every single day, in your life, in order to fulfill your dream. So yes, that’s pretty much it for those, who do not face any more problems or distractions after following those aforementioned steps. And if you are one of those who still, after following those primary rules, face quite some problems, then I would suggest you to take some time, ten minutes to be precise, and just go through the entire article. I promise you, and I assure you, you will live a happier life and the soul within you will feel much more lively and relaxed, if you can connect to the writing and take a lesson from it. Here we go then!

As said by Audrey Hepburn and I quote, “The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters”. Now we all know, practically we need to earn, we need to work hard and we need to give it all we can on order to survive. But the work we do creates the difference between ‘surviving a life’ and living a life ‘happily’.  But even after doing so, sometimes if we do feel low, if we do feel disturbed and if we do feel like giving up, then the problem lies only, within ourselves, within our approach towards doing a job, and within our soul. And this is when, we often find ourselves using the word ‘distraction’ and sometimes the word ‘obstacle’ in terms of describing our current state of mind. Both of these mentioned words are passing phrases, and with dedication and hard work, they would no longer exist. And most importantly, we face such obstacles or distractions, when we take our mind off our goals, due to certain external forces,  which by the way, are the created or brought in by ourselves. And how can we get rid of those unwanted and highly significant things in life?. By following some simple guidelines:-

  1. Keep It Simple

You have framed certain steps that would take you towards glory, and now all that is required to to work hard. Then do it. Do not waste any more time dreaming. Do not waste any more time on planning things over and over again. “Keep it Simple”.

    2. Learn the ‘significance’ of ‘importance’

Get rid of all the insignificant things in your life which are taking away you precious minutes or seconds, which you could utilize on doing something productive, something useful.  Know what is important, and what is useless.

  1. Take ‘motivating’ breaks

Take a break, sit back, relax, and do stuff that would not distract your mind but would rather inspire you more, to cut short that period of rest ,and would make you work harder every time you spring back from that break, feeling rejuvenated.

  1. Learn about yourself

Besides only focusing on the particular goal of yours, keep learning things about yourself. Keep pushing yourself to the limit and see how you perform. Once you start seeing improvements, keep improving further.

5. Never look back

You might be a guy of 17, who has had a messed up past, who has been quite irresponsible in doing things and has been quite irregular in academic activities and stuff. Well it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t freaking matter at all. Be responsible now! Be attentive, be regular, and be the person you wanna be! Never look back and keep pointing fingers on yourself.

  1. Stop blaming others

Remember, whatever you do, I repeat, “whatever you do”, in life, is only because you decided you to do so. It may range from committing a crime to doing someone huge favours. Whatever you do, falls under your responsibility, irrespective of anyone or anything around you. It is your life, you are the one who can choose to either work for the good of the society, or destroy it. People can instigate you, but the decision is always yours to follow.

  1. Believe and make others believe in you

Develop a sense of trust and belief within yourself, because the foremost importance lies in your belief in what you do. It doesn’t matter what someone else thinks of. It doesn’t matter if someone else believes in you, or not. You cannot achieve anything unless and until you yourself believe in it, such that the others who question you, can also have faith upon you and your proceedings.

  1. Be ‘Mr. Yourself’

Some might say they only work for an hour a day and are yet able to remain at the top. Is it possible? Never. The ones who are among the best in their field, are always up to something, and are always working hard towards getting the best results possible! SO be practical, and do not try to imitate others, as everyone is different, other than the fact that the blood running through all of us is red in colour.

  1. Never back down, never quit, and never let yourself be excused, no matter what!

Never ever let yourself shift away from the path you have been following, just because maybe you think you have had enough and it might be appropriate to take some time ‘off’. Well that is the time, when you are in most need of “hard-work’ and ‘dedication’. Never let yourself be excused. Forget about the existence of a word called ‘excuse’. There is only a word called ‘perseverance’ which states that “doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.” So it doesn’t matter if you fail in trying out a new technique you are developing.  Be proud of your courage for being able to try new things, in the first instance. Or in the other hand, if you ever feel like you’ve worked hard for a lot of hours, and maybe you could use some rest, whereas in you routine, you should still be working, then keep working! Remind yourself of those ‘images’ of success which you been framing in your mind. Remind yourself of you goals. And remind yourself of all the hard-work you have been doing till date. I promise, you will no longer feel drowsy or tired.

  1. Repeat !

Okay, so after ten years, here you are, living in a big house, owning a big fancy car, and earning tons of money. That’s it? Yes, practically speaking that’s all you wanted right?. Well, then you are the biggest failure in life. Because what you gotta do next is not sit quietly and keep doing the same old job. Repeat the same amount of hard-work, dedication, perseverance and try becoming better with each day passing by. Try being at the top, and try never to be satisfied to the brim. And if you have really been working quite hard for the last couple of years, then this thought will naturally occur to you, and only then, can you be successful, in the true sense of the word.

So there you have it, a long explanation of the things I feel are the most important to keep yourself away from distractions and keep working hard towards the path of success and glory.

Hope it does inspire you. Hope it does set a fire burning among yourselves. And I hope, it does help you in many a ways, to keep yourself on track.

Keep reading, and always, keep working-hard.

Cheers!🙂

"Follow your passion, and success will follow you"

‘Passion’ – ‘The Key to Happiness’

‘Passion’ – ‘The Key to Happiness’

The title mentioned above could have been somewhat different. All I mean to say, is that instead of the word ‘Happiness’, I could have used the word success, right?. No. I disagree. The difference between ‘success’ and ‘happiness’ is unmeasurable and there have been lots of debates over the issue. The biggest debates over this issue takes place in the house of a teenager, who is often compelled to follow the path, which would make him rich, and clearly not satisfied or happy. Right now, let me present my version of the much ‘sought-after’ debate. So, sit back, take out a few minutes from your busy schedules, and I guarantee that you will emerge a changed person after having completed reading this article, if you were not so already.

We all are pretty much familiar with the saying from the famous Amir Khan starred Bollywood movie ‘3 Idiots’, which stated that ‘One must not work for success. Rather he must work towards attaining intelligence, which would automatically result in guaranteed success. I know many of us were quite motivated after hearing those above-mentioned lines. But a few minutes after, we are like, :- “ Words like this can sound like reality only in movies..!”…. (No sir, not at all…..I can guarantee that to you! -_-) And, well,… grow up people, because we really need to!. Today in India, irrespective of one’s ability, intelligence and passion, nine out of ten students are compelled to study ‘engineering’, which by the way has become a basic degree in order to sustain life!. People are often seen taking decisions on what they really wanna do, after initially completing their engineering.  Could you have ever imagined this, like, ten or fifteen years ago?  I am not against the ones who really desire to be ‘techies’ and carry on their dreams and aspirations. But my question is to the ones, who are never even allowed to pronounce the name of the field they would love to work in! Trust me, there are thousands, or lacks of boys and girls out there, who weep and moan in the darkness, as their passions are never given any priority. Now, how can someone be successful if the he/she is not happy?!! As quoted by Dada Vaswani, “True success, true happiness lies in freedom and fulfilment.” The freedom to do what you love, and the happiness and joy you get on fulfilment of the job is real success. It’s not just about the car you own, or the Bungalow you live in. It’s not about the weight of your wallet or the brand of wine you drink. It’s all about how happy you are from within. And to be able to achieve that happiness, you need to have dreams, which you need to fulfil! We are often asked not to dream of unachievable things. I say, then why must we dream?!. Having passion for ones profession.(( I, am not reffering to one, who might see his/her passion as ‘drinking wine while looking at pinterest’, as reffered to in a somewhat famous meme out there)) is a must in order to lead a happy life, and in order to do so, just listen to yourself. And if you are really passionate about the job you wanna carry out, a great amount perseverance and determination will follow. And motivation? , that’s only a one percent of the equation. Rest of depends on you! The more you’ll work, the more you be able to get closer to that dream. And when you are following you passion, then every day is a success. Every step you take is a success. And every mistake I a real lesson learnt!

Every one of us out there, are passionate about specific things. But not all are courageous enough to follow the heart. I say, be that courageous man! Be that dreamer who can show people that there’s more to life than just being a normal (frustrated) office worker! Be the change! And trust me, life won’t be the same. You will find happiness in the true sense of the word, and you will be able to live life the way it should be! And competition?…, its in every field out there. But if you find that respective field in relation to your passion, and if it is what you live for, then you won’t just be better than the others, you will be ‘different’. And there you have it, the equation towards leading a successful life, happily!

Cheers!🙂

'The Road Ahead' may  not be all sunshine, but ultimately, you get to see the sun rise out of the dark, if you work hard enough.

‘THE ROAD AHEAD’

So, in my last blog, my writing was centralized basically on the importance of determining, what you really want to do in your life. I hope it did motivate or inspire some, and did help everyone in one way or the other. Now let’s say, you have had enough self-analysis and finally have been able to bring out your true aspiration and your ultimate aim in life. Let’s say, you have had enough of this thinking stuff, and it’s the time to proceed towards your dream, through your actions. But wait, if you are among those, who have the misconception that “carrying out the job they love from within, isn’t difficult at all”, then you are simply wrong and you need to clear out this misconception as soon as possible. And therefore, in this blog, I will be breaking up the various procedures you need to follow, while you are out there driving, on “The Road Ahead. Well, life is indeed simple, as my title suggested the last time. But there’s no denying to the fact that Life, is also indeed, ‘A Beautiful War’.

First of all, do take a bit of time to feel proud of yourself, and do congratulate yourself, as you have been successful in determining what you were born to do in life. But make sure you do utilize only a ‘bit’ of time in doing so, and save as much as time as you can, as you will be needing a ‘lot’ of it, while chasing that dream of yours. And once you are proud and confident enough and are ready to do whatever it takes to turn that dream into reality, buckle up my friend, you are ready to hit the road!.

Now, roads aren’t that easy to drive on if you aren’t an expert driver. Especially when they are the busiest and dangerous roads, like ‘The Highways’, and when you have a lot of other cars chasing you in trying to reach that desired spot, whose access is limited to a certain amount or number of people. And beware of shortcuts, as they may reduce the time it takes to reach the desired destination, but they sometimes pose serious threats, and who knows, you may even end up in the wrong destination. But hey, you know where the fun or rather cherishing and enjoying part is? It’s you who gets to choose the road! It’s you who gets to decide whether to take the shortcuts! And it’s you who gets to accelerate and decelerate your vehicle depending on the situations! Because it’s you, who is in the driving seat, and it’s you who owns the vehicle and if you are really aiming to achieve what your heart wants, then it’s you literally who owns the road! So drive safe, and make sure you are never out of fuel, while you’re on your way to reaching your holy grail. And by the littlest of chance, if you ever  feel like you ‘are’ running out of fuel, then make sure to have your car refueled, and most importantly make sure your eyes are never off the road.  There will be hurdles, there will be storms, and rains and, snowfalls compelling you to undo your seat-belt and get off that seat. But that is the time when your passion and love for your profession should provide you with the determination and will to go on, as during times of utter disgust, it is one’s self confidence and power of will that holds oneself up and gives or provides them with that extra bit of push, required to move forward.  Nothing in this life can be achieved with ease, but it can be achieved with a lot of patience, confidence and perseverance. And it is ‘these’ traits that make it easy enough to achieve the dreams and aspirations of one’s life.

So, first of all, have your heart to say what it wants you to be in this life. Spend some time deeply analyzing your thoughts and aspirations, until you come up with the picture of that one single thing, for achieving which you can totally dedicate life without a second thought. And then, lies ahead the most important task of going out there and achieving that dream, which must not be that hard, if the dream you’re after is really your thing.

So put an end to ‘self-analysis’(once its done and dusted) , be confident in what you decide to do , and as said by ‘The 7x Mr. Olympia’, Arnold Schwarzenegger, “…work your butt-off!” (One of the rules of his ever inspiring and motivating speech on his “6 Rules Of Success”.)  And no matter what it takes, make sure you do not waste all of your valuable time in trying to determine your aims and objectives, as ultimately you may end up being ‘nothing’ in life, and thus, be coined with the term, or be called, as an “Armchair Philosopher”.

Good Luck!🙂 (Y) !  .

Life is indeed “SIMPLE”.

Well, if there is one question that’s on everybody’s mind nowadays, then it is “how can I live my life the way I want to?”.  This question here, can be answered simply. Or to be precise, even a small child, who has just developed a bit of intellect and the power of thinking, can answer it, with a lot of confidence, pretty easily, which would obviously sound like this:- “Do what you love!”. And seriously, that’s it. There you have it!, ‘The Mantra’, the answer to the so called “toughest” or “most “frequently self-interrogated question”, and which by the way, if a fact indeed.

Now I know, carrying out certain things in a perfect way isn’t always possible, no matter how simple the answer to the question above might sound. But here comes another famous and “simple” saying, which is:- “ “Nothing is impossible”( and I know you guessed it already ).  Well, in a way, actually nothing is impossible, (you can even put a handful of toothpaste back into its tube, if you know the techniques and have the tools required!) All you need is dedication, perseverance, and the will to go on. And one more very important thing I would like to add is “organisation”. Yes folks, I can guarantee you, that many of us living out there, aren’t even a bit organised in the way they carry on their tasks, (which includes even simple day-to-day tasks). And why I am putting so much stress on the word “organisation”? , its because I have myself been a victim of not being organised, and hence had to suffer a lot. I still remember the way my parents used to shout on me for not even keeping all the books and copies properly in the shelves(sounds pretty simple ..huh?, but that’s what I was becoming) But one day, my dad, who is by the way, the most organised person I’ve ever known, spoke to me a few words on the importance of being organised. And there it was, the motivation and vision I needed, to transform myself into an organised person.  Another important thing that I must say, would be to have faith, or just trust yourself.(Not blindly though, but still, have confidence,  not over-confidence).And when can one simply trust oneself??, when one knows that the task he/she is  carrying out, is one in which nothing can go wrong. And how can nothing ever go wrong??, simply when one deeply understands and connects oneself to the subject on which he/she is working. And when can one do so?, when he/she can forget about everything else in this world, for carrying out and to concentrate on that particular job, which the person loves. So, basically, persevere, be organised, have confidence, and be dedicated. And you will gradually be there doing the thing you love and you wanna do!

But is it that simple? Yes it is. I just can’t understand why every single time a person dreams of becoming something, that “something” always appears to be an impossible or unachievable thing!. Well maybe because your parents do not like it? Or maybe it sounds strange as hell?. Well who cares man! If you can visualise yourself as a successful person in whatever you do, then isn’t it a way better than doing a job that, you know, is not going to be satisfying?? Its not about earning money, its not about the post in which you’re working, and it ain’t about the name of the company you’re working in!. Its all about you,you,and only YOU!. “Your” satisfaction, “your” dream, “your” visions.

So go out there, “Ignore the naysayers”( -Arnold Schwarzenegger), believe in yourself, and carry out that dream job you have always wanted to do your whole life. Only then will you be able to describe this  life as “simple”!.  And trust me, if you really put in all you have got into whatever you wanna do,(which comes in naturally if you really love what you’re doing)then, really, impossible would be a word, you would never have to even think of in your life!.

So find out what really is your thing, and enjoy!.